October 27, 2016

Change: As Seen From One Side of the Coin




Resistance is our normal reaction to CHANGE. Even if the reason is logical enough, even if we have already seen it coming like a weather forecast, we are consumed by close-mindedness. We are in the process of denial, thinking and wishing it won't happen [to us], only to realize in an instant that it has finally come. We start to falter. We over-think with so many whys and what ifs. We are clouded with uncertainties, at the same time, trying hard to understand, to internalize.

Why do we initially resist change?

We don't want to leave our comfort zones.

Places. Circle of friends. Family. Everyday routines. Normal pacing. This and that. We don't want to be detached from what we have chosen to love and from those that we have learned to love - from anything familiar.  

We are not prepared to embrace change.

Since we are so accustomed with our comfort zones, we begin to be complacent. We fail to see the gradual changes that are happening. We forget to make backup plans. We are shocked. We don't learn how to be flexible. We refuse to be. We are afraid to try something new.

We think we can reach our desired destinations faster without some detours.

We are too focused on how to get there, without even thinking if the straight path we are taking is the right one for us.


After some arguments with ourselves and with the help of those who make us see the bigger picture, we begin to realize that change is essential to growth. At some point, it is essential to survival. Yes, everything is uncertain. We must be open to changes and embrace it. We cannot control everything according to our plan. Acceptance is the key. Sometimes, we have to take some detours to see the opportunities that may come along the way. We have to believe that all changes are good. If it is not good as of the moment, then we have to believe that everything happens for a reason and all will be good in the end.